Friday, August 19, 2016

How To Get Kids To Listen Without Becoming Frustrated

By Carolyn Long


Children have a lot going on, both on an emotional level as well as with what they have to do with their life. It is often difficult for them to listen to their parents and teachers. It is not always as if they are being disobedient. Very often, things become chaotic in their lives. Parents need to know how to get kids to listen without becoming frustrated.

Some people become annoyed when their kids are not listening to them. They may repeat themselves or raise their voice. This is not the right approach because it can create an element of fear within the child. The parent will also become more impatient. It is almost like you think your child is ignoring you, but this is not the case.

It is important to know that your child is actually listening and attentive before you start engaging with them, or else this is going to lead to a lot of frustration. For example, when a child is completely engaged in a project, they become focused on this. They don't allow any distractions to enter into their space. You have to make sure that you are able to make contact with them.

Children will start to learn about various orders and commands over time. However, they don't want to become fearful of the parent, thinking that they will become threatened in one way or another. Parents should exercise caution, using empathy and compassion when talking to their child. They will strengthen the bond between the parent and the child.

The brain is developing at this time and this is something that you have to keep in mind. You can't overwhelm your child by talking to them, using a lot of words or using your words in such a way that they are not going to understand. You need to get down to their level. Use their language. They can only take in so much at this stage of their lives.

Have compassion for your child and treat them as if you would want to be treated at that age. It is not always easy when you are growing up and struggling in this way. You need to think of the right way to come up with the most appropriate words which they would use with their friends. In this way you would be connecting with them on their level, and creating a stronger bond.

Some children will have more problems listening in general. They can have learning disorders, autism or attention deficit disorders. These are things that teachers may be able to pick up. It is helpful to know the signs and symptoms. Parents need to be encouraging at a time like, offering a lot of love and support.

Some children who battle hearing what you have to say, may also be suffering from something like autism or attention deficit disorder. If you find that they are switched off and you really can't get into their space, it may be a good idea to consult with a family doctor. They will refer you to a pediatrician. Parents need to handle the situation with a lot of love and encouragement, because it is not easy.




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